Saturday, December 15, 2012

The Arrival of London Antoinette Okray

The past 12 days have been a whirlwind in the Okray household.  We appreciate all the love, support and friendship that we've received from each and every one of you and now that we're all safely snuggled in at home we are finally able to share London's birth story with you all.

The whole ordeal started on Tuesday December 4th, 2012 around 11:30am.  Amber was at work and started to feel very minor contractions.  She made it through the afternoon at school and through that evening things started to progress even more.  After dinner on Tuesday night Amber and John started to time the contractions which were lasting for 1 to 2 minutes and were about 10 minutes apart.  That night they continued about every 10 minutes at 1 to 2 minutes long and also got more intense.  About 4:30am Amber called her long-term substitute and the substitute co-ordinator at work because she was sure that within the next 24 hours London would be born.

On Wednesday morning the contractions got even more intense and John and Amber headed to the Madison Birth Center (the non-intervention birthing location that we had been going for our prenatal care since early October) and we made all the necessary calls to immediate family that we were on our way to give birth so that there would be a baby born very soon.  Once at the birth center it was confirmed that Amber was not as far along as we thought.  The pain was very intense, however, Amber was not dilated very much so we were told that we'd have to go home and labor some more at home.  This is very typically done at the Madison Birth Center so we didn't think anything of it.

We didn't want to go all the way home to Janesville (being that it's about 45 minutes one way from the Madison Birth Center) so we made arrangements to go to John's sister's house in Verona, WI (about 15 minutes from the Madison Birth Center) to labor for the day and then head back to the birth center when things progressed later on.  By this time Amber's mom, Diane, had made her way down from Appleton and spent the day with us at Michelle's.  As the day went on Amber continued to labor, but it became very irregular without much of a pattern.  We were in touch with our midwife throughout the day and evening and once the pain got so intense that Amber thought it was time (about 4am on Thursday) we were about to pack up and leave when Amber just stopped having contractions.  All that labor and just like that nothing!

At 9:00am on Thursday Amber still had not had a contraction since about 4:00am so we decided to head home to Janesville.  It isn't incredibly common, but it does happen that your body just needs a break from labor so that's what we figured was happening.  Around dinner time that night (Thursday) Amber started contractions again, but this time the pain was all in her lower back and again the labor had no consistent pattern.  Sometimes they would be 20 minutes apart and 5 minutes long and other times they were 7 minutes apart and 1 minute long.  The contractions lasted like this throughout Thursday night and when we called our midwife the next morning she suggested seeing our chiropractor to see if baby would move to a better position so that regular labor (labor with contractions in Amber's uterus) would start back up.  After the chiropractor we headed up to the Madison Birth Center to see if Amber had progressed any further.  When it showed that she had not dilated anymore than she had on Tuesday morning our midwife got out the fetal-scope to monitor Amber's contractions. Each time Amber had a contraction the baby's heart rate would drop and it took a long time for the heart rate to get back up.  Also, the fetal-scope showed that Amber's contractions were only in her lower back and not spreading to the uterus which is not a good thing.  Our midwife referred us to Meriter Hospital in Madison to see what other information we could find out from this odd labor process.  John, Amber, Diane and our doula Margaret (who is also studying to be a midwife at the Madison Birth Center) headed to Meriter Hospital.

Once there the fetal-scope showed the same drop in the baby's heart rate that we saw at the Madison Birth Center and it also showed that the contractions were all in Amber's back and not spreading to her uterus.  They decided that an ultrasound was in order.  The ultrasound found that London was transverse breech (meaning her head was on Amber's right side and her feet were on Amber's left side).  Being in this position there is almost no way to have a vaginal delivery.  This was the time for modern medicine to kick in and for us to have an emergency cesarian section.  With tears and frustration and a lot of fear we knew that have the emergency c-section was our only option and both John and Amber got prepped for surgery.  We had to have the OB Surgeon (who was wonderful) come in and discuss the risks of the surgery, we had to have the Anesthesiologist (who was also wonderful) come in and discuss the risks of anesthesia and John had to get into a surgical outfit.  Once we were all ready Amber was wheeled into the operating room and John had to wait outside until Amber was prepped (the longest 20 minutes of his life).  Once everything was ready to go John was able to hold Amber's hand and be with her during the surgery.  Amber was able to stay awake and alert throughout the surgery although she or John were not able to see anything as there was a sheet separating the surgeon and his work from Amber and John.

Once inside they found the uterus stained with meconium (baby poop) and they were worried that London may have ingested some.  This could cause a lot of harm to a baby.  Once London was out of Amber they immediately took London and tried to suck as much of the meconium out of her nose and mouth as they could.  When they thought they had everything out they finally allowed London to cry.  It seemed like hours before Amber and John were able to hear her cry (although it was probably only a matter of a minute).  Then John was able to go over and see her and after they cleaned her up a bit more they brought London over to see Amber too.  London's official time of birth was Friday December 7th, 2012 at 5:45pm and she was 6 pounds 12 ounces and 19 inches long.

First family photo with London, Amber and John.

Amber meeting London for the first time.

After a brief meet and greet they took John and London off to the NICU so that they could monitor London for possible meconium aspiration (ingestion of meconium).  Amber stayed in the OR until she was all stitched back up and then she spent about an hour in post-op and was given a review from the nurses and OB Surgeon on what happend during the surgery.  The surgeon said that London was one of the hardest breech surgeries that he had done in quite awhile and because she was so wedged in there that he had to make two incisions (called a t-incision) which would mean that Amber will not be able to have a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarian).  That was very disheartening news to both Amber and John because we had wanted to have a very natural, non-intervention birth for all our kids down the road and now we know that will not happen.

John and Amber in post-op

After post-op Amber was wheeled up to the NICU to see London for another brief moment and then we were brought to her room for recovery.  Amber was put on some strong pain medication that basically "knocked her out" until about 3:00am when she woke and wanted to see London.  The nurses and John wheeled Amber up to the NICU where she was able to hold London for the very first time.

Amber holding London for the first time (3:30am)

Another family photo.

London once she was all settled in the NICU.

You may notice that London was hooked up to a few things.  Let me explain those as best I can.  The "cast-looking" thing on her arm (eventually moved to her head because she scratched the one on her arm off) is an IV because they did give her antibiotics because if she ingested any meconium that could be toxic to her and the cultures that they give to check if she has an infection take 24 and 48 hours to come back so they decide to be "better safe than sorry" and give her an IV of antibiotics right away after birth if there is an meconium present in the womb.  She also has a breathing tube by her nose.  This IS NOT oxygen.  It's also a precautionary measure to insure that air (the regular air that we're breathing) can get to her quicker if she does have breathing problems from ingesting meconium.  Also, there is a tiny tube coming from her mouth (later they move this to her nose because she kept pulling it out of her mouth).  That is a feeding tube which they put in as a precautionary measure just incase she will not eat or is not able to eat because of the ingestion of the meconium, however, this was never needed or used!

Over the next four days they continued to monitor London for meconium ingestion (all the cultures came back negative) which means that as far as they know she never ingested any meconium.  After that scare was over they also monitored London to make sure she was feeding correctly which she was able to do just fine because Amber's milk came in very quickly and she was able to pump enough colostrum before that to keep London satisfied.  We are proud to say that London did not need any formula supplements although we did need to have some donor milk from the Madison Birth Center just to be safe.

Amber and London were released on Tuesday December 11th, 2012 around 3:00pm and we were all very excited to go home as a three-person-one-cat-family for the very first time!  London continues to feed very well and as of today (Saturday December 15th, 2012) she is 7 pounds 7 ounces so she is growing fast!

John loading London into the car to head home from the hospital.

London's first car ride.

Amber, John and London are home for the first time!

Stay tuned for more updates on London's first week at home as well as information on our move to our new house.  Until then Go Pack Go!

Some other pictures from London's stay in the NICU:

London's NICU Room Sign

London meeting Grandma Diane.

Mommy and London Koala time

London's first feeding by bottle.

London meeting Great-Grandpa Norb and Great-Grandma Betty

London getting kisses and snuggles from Mom

London being held by Daddy for the first time

London meeting Uncle Adam

Okray Family Photo

London meeting Auntie Michelle

Auntie Michelle, Daddy and London

Auntie Michelle, Mommy and London

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Falling into Autum

Well it's been just over a month since our last post so we thought that we'd update you on what is going on in the lives of the Okray's of Janesville.

Amber has officially started the 2012-2013 School Year and so far things are going very well.  She is only at one school this year (no traveling from building to building for the first time ever!) and is having a very good start to the year.  The K-3 students that she teaches are doing very well behavior wise and music wise and they ask everyday when she's going to have the baby and what the baby's name is going to be.  Kiddos are great!

Just as Amber is heading back to full-time work John is starting to slow down at Glen Erin Golf Course.  This fall has been pretty mild so the golf course is still open and doing pretty good business  but with frost in the morning and the sun setting earlier John's hours at work are a little shorter and less busy which is to be expected and is nice after the busy summer schedule that John works.

As fall sets in so does football season and even though the Packers aren't dominating this year we still love them and watch every game!  We were able to go to the Packers vs. Bears Game at Lambeau Field on Thursday September 13th.  The Packers won that night and it is always fun to go to a big rivalry game!  We were able to hang out with Amber's Aunt Dede, Uncle John, Cousin Emily and Cousin Jason at the game and got to see our friends Sarah, Matt, Megan and Avery after the game.  It was a great victory over the Bears and Lambeau Field was just electric!  Overall it was an amazing game!


Amber, John and Baby Girl after the Packers vs. Bears Game at Lambeau Field.

The next day we headed back to Lambeau Field to meet Paul (our wedding photographer who has become our family photographer) for pregnant belly pictures.  We had a fun time taking some fun and unique pictures of us with Amber and her baby belly.

Just a few of the preggo belly pics!














The day after that was a very full day!  Amber had her first baby shower in Appleton, WI given by her mother, grandmother and godmother.  It was amazing to see and hear the outpouring of love for our Baby Girl from so many family and friends.  Amber was able to see just how big her belly is (something she maybe didn't need to know) and after John and Adam golfed that morning they were able to come and say hello to everyone as well.


Beautiful and yummy cake!


Baby in a Baby Carriage Fruit Salad made by Amber's Grandma Betty


Amber and the cake.


Hooray for presents!


So many cute and pink baby clothes.


Handmade clothes and blankets by Amber's Great-Aunt Martha.


A clothesline of wonderful baby clothes from Amber's Aunts, Cousins and Grandma Georgene.


Blanket made by Amber's Godmother Janet.


Amie and Megan helping out with the gifts.


Amber and her cousin Nicole.


Amie, Cristina, Amber, Megan and Mallory (SNC Girls)

After some time hanging out with friends we headed to Mr. G's Bar and Grill in Appleton to celebrate Amber's Mom (Diane) 50th Birthday which was the same day as the baby shower!  We had a great time talking with family and friends and having some really good pizza and cake!  It ended up not just being a birthday party, but an engagement party as well because in the midst of all the birthday activities Diane's boyfriend Steve proposed!  Everyone was in shock.  Diane of course said yes and everyone started shouting and hugging and crying!  It was a great day all around!


Steve on one knee proposing to Diane.


She said yes!

The next week we were given some really great news about the house.  We are able to close on our house three weeks ahead of schedule on Friday November 9th!  That will give us some time to have a friend of ours come in an paint all of the rooms the colors that we want as well as have our furniture and appliances delivered and have cable and DirecTV ready to go for us.  We will have some help from family and friends help us the weekend before Thanksgiving move all the stuff from our apartment over to our new home and then hopefully we'll have about a week (maybe more) to get everything ready in the house before Baby Girl makes her big arrival!  We were able to go on a walk-through of the house the next week and we are very excited about how everything is looking.  With just less than a month to go before we move in we are all very anxious and excited!


Amber opening the door from the garage to the house for the first time!


View of the kitchen from the dinning room.


View of the living room from the entrance to the kitchen.


Main floor bathroom.


Office


Baby Girl's Room


Master Bathroom


Master bedroom closet


Master Bedroom


Hallway view from living room.


Mudroom/Laundry Room


Packer Room (in the basement)


Storage area (in the basement)


Guest Bedroom (in the basement)


Guest Bathroom (in the basement)


Stairs leading from the basement upstairs.


Extra Large Two-Car Garage


View of our house from the street.

During these past few weeks we've also made the decision to have a natural birth with our baby so we've decided that we'll be working with a midwife and giving birth at the Madison Birthing Center in Middleton, WI.  Everything is progressing normally and Baby Girl is happy and healthy.  We hope that we are able to deliver her without any complications or drugs in a very natural environment.

Baby Girl is growing!


















This past Friday October 12th Amber celebrated her 29th Birthday.  We celebrated with ordering our new king sized mattress and box spring, having dinner at Olive Garden and watching the movie "Tangled" at home.  The very next day was Amber's 10 Year High School Reunion in West Allis, WI. We both had a great time.  Amber was able to catch up with a lot of friends from high school and we were both able to meet some fun new people that were significant others of Amber's friends.

Well that's all for now.  Hopefully our new post will be written from the living room of our new home :)  Until next time....Go Pack Go!